It sounds bad men I know but their does come a time that they will settle.
My Haitian man did all the controlling, obsessive behavior and cheating and one day I said alright two can play that game. Left him and six months later I was making big purchases and found another man(though I did not really care for this new man as my heart belonged to my haitian love).
Well he came back and takes 50% of the responsibilities with the home, kids, cars, ect. So let me tell you ladies they do change as all men do and I am sure all you men out there can say the same thing.
Although my man does say it has something to do with my ethnic back ground of being Italian and German mix although I was born in Canada! All the best for you as their are cultural differences and if you are firm but patient it will all work out but no man is the same!